It’s baffling how Gregor could say no.
He had the complete package: a pretty wife, a good wife, a loyal wife, and happy children. Everything that matters in building a life, everything that men claim to want, everything that should make saying yes to fidelity the easiest choice in the world.
Yet he cheated. Just as he confessed a few days ago: “I regret cheating on Dee.”
The regret came too late, after damage was done, after trust was broken, after Dee had to carry the pain of betrayal while still showing up as wife and mother.
The contrast between Gregor and Dee is stark, almost painful to consider.
Dee always declared: “I will stay by your side in every sweet or sour moment of your life, Gregor!”
Not conditional love dependent on his perfection. Not partnership only during easy times. She committed to staying through everything — the sweet moments and the sour ones, the successes and the failures, the times when he was easy to love and the times when loving him required more strength than should be necessary.
She kept that promise. Even when he broke his.
Can you imagine it? Gregor held a big blue diamond in his hand — the metaphor is perfect, representing Dee’s value, her rarity, her worth. He possessed something precious, something many people search their entire lives to find.
But still he went looking for beach stones.
Common, unremarkable, easily found anywhere. He had the rare treasure and somehow convinced himself that what he really needed was something ordinary that offered nothing his diamond couldn’t provide more beautifully.
The photograph shows them together at what appears to be a formal event, both dressed elegantly. Gregor in a suit, Dee in black, standing close with his arm around her. They look like the complete package they are — attractive, successful, together.
But photographs lie by omission. They don’t show the hurt beneath Dee’s composed exterior, the work she’s doing to rebuild trust, the sour moments she promised to stay through that arrived because of his choices rather than external circumstances.
The person sharing this story ends with hope: “Let’s pray their marriage gets much better from now on. Thank you.”
That prayer matters because it acknowledges that marriages can survive infidelity, that regret can be genuine, that people who’ve caused enormous pain can potentially become better partners if they truly commit to change.
But prayer alone isn’t enough. Gregor needs to understand what he nearly lost, what he still might lose if his regret doesn’t translate into transformation. He needs to recognize that Dee’s loyalty isn’t permission for betrayal, that her promise to stay through sour moments didn’t include an invitation to create them unnecessarily.
He held a diamond and went looking for beach stones. That sentence should haunt him every time he looks at Dee, every time he considers making choices that prioritize momentary desire over lasting commitment, every time he’s tempted to take for granted the woman who promised to stay through everything.
Dee deserves better than regret offered after the damage is done. She deserves a partner whose loyalty matches her own, whose commitment is as unwavering, who understands that having the complete package means protecting it rather than risking it.
Their marriage can get much better from now on, but only if Gregor truly understands what he has. Not just intellectually acknowledging that Dee is good and loyal and pretty, but viscerally recognizing that she’s the diamond, the rare treasure, the person worth choosing every single day over every beach stone that catches his eye.
The children are happy — for now. They deserve parents whose marriage models fidelity and genuine partnership, who show them that commitment means something more than words spoken at a wedding, who demonstrate that loving someone through sour moments creates something stronger than relationships that exist only during sweet times.
Let’s pray their marriage gets much better. Let’s hope Gregor’s regret transforms into genuine change. Let’s believe that Dee’s loyalty is eventually matched by a partner who finally understands what he holds.
Because she’s the diamond. And he needs to stop looking for stones.